I'm in a similar situation myself. Well... let's say I've been learning for 3-4 years now how to overcome all that. GREAT GREAT advice here. I especially felt my strings vibrating when reading OldGearGuy and Nils but others too.
My personal current experience:
For years I've learnt about myself and I now know that my favourite time are the 10pm-2am hours. BUT... with the daily job etc, I often feel the need to rest in the couh in front of a movie or slack off on the internet or.. well. This is frustrating because I've spent the whole day planning a musical evening.
However, I feel I've found a solution, which has been mentionned here. A guy I sometimes play with once told me: "I'm more of the 'beginning', I prefer spring, morning etc". As I had pain to start playing at night because bed time etc, two months ago I tried to go to bed earlier -no matter I've not being playing. The aim was to be able to get up at 1am, play a couple of hours and get back to sleep. But as a result, I just wake up earlier in the morning and either don't feel I'm already running after my day or I take time to do cool things: play music for example.
Advantages: morning is way underrated!! When getting up, your brain is... muddy, ok. Coffee really helps to focus. Now, your brain is: empty. No troubles yet. No daily hassle from your boss, etc. You are NOW ready to create.
BTW I tried once that creativity stimulation exercise: once you've just gotten up, take a pen and some paper (or laptop) and have a 15-20 minutes page rush. Write WHATEVER gets in your head, don't correct, don't erase, don't think. Write what you
receive, not what you
(think you) create. Just try it. Anyway.
The expericence I had with morning music is that it does not matter if I don't finish things. No as much as at night. Plus it has me more motivated to continue when getting back from work.
And finally, I leave home smiling, thinking how lucky I am to have music, to have a passion, to have the time to fulfill it before going to work... to know how valuable are the mornng hours. And no kidding: my whole day is better!
You should try it, really.
[I'm so sorry this post is so long... but I think it worths being said, again
]
Now, I'll throw some important ideas -important to me at least- that have become my "mental shelter" (easy to say, not always easy to do... but worths beeing said
).
- There's a time for having things done, and time for having simple fun.
- Reading manuals, installing OS, selecting samples, achieving a great clap tonight: this is not necessarily properly "making music" but this is certainly "doing something for your music", and THAT may be what makes you feel better.
- If you won't play foar a while, it does not bother your gear.
- PLEASURE FIRST.
- Don't ever feel guilty.
- I find myself more at ease in a light set-up: keep it simple.
- The record-ready is important as said earlier: when ajmming around, at least, record a 3 minutes stuff, or a couple of riffs, patterns etc. You may shoot the frustration down that way.
- PLEASURE FIRST.
- Would you sell all of your gear and give music up?? Naaaaah! So be conscious you have the flame, even if you are not playing every day.
- huh... lower expectations?...
- and finally: PLEASURE FIRST.
My two grands (as weigh, not value). Sorry
Oh: please take a look at Lev Ylmaz' Tales of the Mere Existence -
Procrastination clip on the tube